GROOM:
You will be hard pressed to find a widely accepted generally recognized sign
for groom.
The fact is, it just doesn't come up very often in Deaf conversations.
When Belinda and I got married, I remember my friend Connie Johnston (later
Connie Rubery) used the sign "BRIDESMAID" which (was new to me at the time),
but is apparently quite well established. I don't go to weddings all that
often, so I'll take Connie's word on it. I asked my wife how she
signed groom and she replied, "I don't know, I don't get
married that often." (Heh. Good thing for me eh?)
The fact is, groom is a word used by Hearing people in voiced
conversations.
We Deaf still discuss people getting married, we just don't use the word
"groom" much. For example:
Signer 1: HEY YOU KNOW BOB AND JULIE?
Signer 2: [head-nod, eyebrows up]
Signer 1: next-MONTH MARRY!
Example 2:
Signer 1: HEY YOU KNOW JULIE?
Signer 2: [head-nod, eyebrows up]
Signer 1: next-MONTH MARRY!
Signer 2: WHO?
Signer 1: BOB!
Signer 2: BOB SMITH!?
Signer 1: YES
Signer 2: MEET HOW?!?
Signer 1: last-YEAR NAD MEETING-[conference] those-2 SAME COMMITTEE.
Signer 2: OH-I-SEE, RIGHT! those-2 PERFECT ASSOCIATE-["each-other"]
So, remember, the word "groom" is generally not used that much in ASL and
thus you will not find many Deaf who will instantly know or be able to show you
a specific sign for it. You'll sometimes see it spelled. If the
conversation goes beyond one or two sentences the spelling tends to end up
shortened to "G-R-M" rather than actually showing all of the letters. (This is
called lexicalization).
If you must have a sign for "groom" (for example, if you are explaining the
concept to a group of Deaf students, you could sign "MALE-WEDDING."